Helpful Practices for Couples

October 30th, 2009


Earlier this year I wrote an article for Bridge, a local journal for therapists and other health professionals, on helpful practices for couples to build and strengthen their relationship. The three practices I wrote about are mindfulness, cultivating wise mind, and sharing appreciations.

You are welcome to download a copy of the full journal with my article.

Practicing mindfulness allows us to become more aware of our own sensitivities. Knowing our sensitivities, or triggers, can help explain why we get so upset with our partner, and why certain things he/she does drives us crazy. This also helps regain some presence of mind in heated moments.

Wise Mind
Cultivating wise mind allows us to bring both our emotional mind and our logical mind to the situation. Sometimes we get in trouble when we rely too heavily on one or the other. The integration of these two states of mind is known as wise mind.

Sharing appreciations is another good practice. In the article, I describe how it works — basically, each partner takes a turn sharing something he/she admires or appreciates about the other. This brings both people into the present moment and really increases honesty and intimacy.

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